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Learn More About the Book: Ghost Mothers

In Reading This Book, You’ll Learn 6 Ghost Busting Strategies:

  • RECOGNIZE: the reality of your childhood
  • RELEASE: the pain that damages your spirit
  • REFOCUS: on creating a strong identity
  • RESTORE: your confidence and emotional strength
  • RENOVATE: how you view yourself
  • REWRITE: a new life script that meets your needs

In Reading This Book, You’ll Learn 6 Ghost Busting Strategies:

  • RECOGNIZE: the reality of your childhood
  • RELEASE: the pain that damages your spirit
  • REFOCUS: on creating a strong identity
  • RESTORE: your confidence and emotional strength
  • RENOVATE: how you view yourself
  • REWRITE: a new life script that meets your needs

About the Book

Ghost Mothers: Healing From the Pain of a Mother Who Wasn’t Really There was written to describe and validate the experience of those who grew up with mothers who didn’t bond and weren’t able to emotionally connect.

Sadly, many mothers don’t bond with their children due to an inability to manage their own lives. The result is a ghost mother who isn’t emotionally present in her critically important role.

The impact on those who grow up this way is substantial. Happily, knowledge is power! Unraveling and understanding the pain of the past is the key to a more fulfilling future.

After writing this book, I discovered Schema Therapy, thanks to Wendy Behary, LCSW, author of the book: Disarming the Narcissist.

Combining this powerful healing approach with the work I was doing, and all I’ve learned since, has created an abundantly effective healing approach that is helping women heal from growing up ghost mothered in ways they never dreamed possible.

Ghost Mothers
Kathryn Rudlin

Author Interviews

How did you come up with the title of your book?
Initially I had no idea what to call the book that I intended to write. Then I had a dream in which I was chasing a woman who had something I desperately wanted. When I caught up to her she disappeared into an explosion of silky mist. When I woke up, the term ghost mothers was resonating in my head, and I knew that I’d found my title.

What is the most rewarding thing about being a published author?
Hearing from someone who has been deeply touched by the concepts in my book, knowing that it’s truly made a difference in their life that I’ve written this book.

What has been the best compliment?
The best compliment I’ve received for my book is hearing that I’ve managed to describe an experience that many have been through, and did not know how to express.

Why was writing Ghost Mothers: Healing From the Pain of a Mother Who Wasn’t Really There, so important to you?

I’ve gained so much in having to navigate growing up with a mentally ill mother, and feel so fortunate in learning that in many ways this is the ultimate growth experience. I felt compelled to share my experience in order to encourage others to embrace rather than resist this unique experience.

How much influence did you have in the cover of your book? Did you initially have a different idea of how it would look?
I had no idea how to portray the concept of wanting so badly to have a positive relationship with your mother, and getting nowhere. My agent suggested I hire an experienced graphic designer, and the result was a back and forth collaboration between us that produced a cover I’m very proud of.

Kathy’s Workbook for Self-Help Healing

Contact me directly to request a copy of my WORKBOOK – step by step healing as you work through the 6 Ghost-Busting Strategies described in my book.

“A BOOK WITH A POWERFUL MESSAGE… Kathryn Rudlin’s Ghost Mothers: Healing from the Pain of a Mother Who Wasn’t Really There is a candid two-fold portrait: one, of a childhood devoid of the genuine unconditional love of a mother and, two, of the resolve of one woman to take control of her life. In Ghost Mothers: Healing from the Pain of a Mother Who Wasn’t Really There, Kathryn shares 6 proven ghost-busting strategies to create a life free from the pain of having a ghost parent. More importantly, Kathryn gives victims of ghost parents hope—healing is possible. And so is love.”
Ghost Mothers

About the Book

Ghost Mothers: Healing From the Pain of a Mother Who Wasn’t Really There was written to describe and validate the experience of those who grew up with mothers who didn’t bond and weren’t able to emotionally connect.

Sadly, many mothers don’t bond with their children due to an inability to manage their own lives. The result is a ghost mother who isn’t emotionally present in her critically important role.

The impact on those who grow up this way is substantial. Happily, knowledge is power! Unraveling and understanding the pain of the past is the key to a more fulfilling future.

After writing this book, I discovered Schema Therapy, thanks to Wendy Behary, LCSW, author of the book: Disarming the Narcissist.

Combining this powerful healing approach with the work I was doing, and all I’ve learned since, has created an abundantly effective healing approach that is helping women heal from growing up ghost mothered in ways they never dreamed possible.

Kathryn Rudlin

Author Interviews

How did you come up with the title of your book?
Initially I had no idea what to call the book that I intended to write. Then I had a dream in which I was chasing a woman who had something I desperately wanted. When I caught up to her she disappeared into an explosion of silky mist. When I woke up, the term ghost mothers was resonating in my head, and I knew that I’d found my title.

What is the most rewarding thing about being a published author?
Hearing from someone who has been deeply touched by the concepts in my book, knowing that it’s truly made a difference in their life that I’ve written this book.

What has been the best compliment?
The best compliment I’ve received for my book is hearing that I’ve managed to describe an experience that many have been through, and did not know how to express.

Why was writing Ghost Mothers: Healing From the Pain of a Mother Who Wasn’t Really There, so important to you?

I’ve gained so much in having to navigate growing up with a mentally ill mother, and feel so fortunate in learning that in many ways this is the ultimate growth experience. I felt compelled to share my experience in order to encourage others to embrace rather than resist this unique experience.

How much influence did you have in the cover of your book? Did you initially have a different idea of how it would look?
I had no idea how to portray the concept of wanting so badly to have a positive relationship with your mother, and getting nowhere. My agent suggested I hire an experienced graphic designer, and the result was a back and forth collaboration between us that produced a cover I’m very proud of.

Kathy’s Workbook for Self-Help Healing

Contact me directly to request a copy of my WORKBOOK – step by step healing as you work through the 6 Ghost-Busting Strategies described in my book.

“A BOOK WITH A POWERFUL MESSAGE… Kathryn Rudlin’s Ghost Mothers: Healing from the Pain of a Mother Who Wasn’t Really There is a candid two-fold portrait: one, of a childhood devoid of the genuine unconditional love of a mother and, two, of the resolve of one woman to take control of her life. In Ghost Mothers: Healing from the Pain of a Mother Who Wasn’t Really There, Kathryn shares 6 proven ghost-busting strategies to create a life free from the pain of having a ghost parent. More importantly, Kathryn gives victims of ghost parents hope—healing is possible. And so is love.”
“Healing doesn’t happen overnight, it requires consistent effort to change old patterns and embrace new ones. I believe healing begins the moment you acknowledge the pain of growing up with a ghost mother, and continues every time you acknowledge your inner wisdom and successful steps forward.”

FROM THE BOOK GHOST MOTHERS